Friday, May 14, 2010

To Share...or not to share


In contemplating the perfect house for our family we have asked the question of how many bedrooms would be ideal. I always grew up with my own bedroom and loved it but there is something to be said for the relationship that is (hopefully) built when forced to share a room. So I pose the question to you--What do you think is better-having the kids share rooms or allowing each child to have their own space?

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

A Room with a View and 2 wheelin' it

I am finally settled in our new (yet temporary) house. At least now that I FINALLY have internet once again I feel more settled. I did not find it that difficult to give up the tv for a while while we made the switch but I have to admit that I was going through some serious internet withdrawals.

I have traded in space, privacy and storage for openness, windows and light (not to mention having an entire park for our backyard). I do have to admit that sharing a wall with someone else is a bit exasperating for me. (I'm not sure which is louder--my kids screaming at each other at 6:00 A.M. or me "shushing" them up with threats of physical violence if they don't "shut their bloody mouths")
Yikes!
Oh well-----------
Here is the new view from my Living/dining room windows. Isn't it so cool.

I took this one the other day after some pretty good rain storms. Can you see the full rainbow arching across?

The kids are loving the park. They have ridden their bikes more in the last 4 days than they ever were able to before at the other house. Bones spent a day riding the loop with his training wheels on. They were so lopsided and catywampus and yet he still rode like a demon so I decided that it was time to test his luck without them. I took them off and was gearing up for the battle and drama of teaching a child to ride a bike. I went outside and was just going to give him a little trial test in the cul-de-sac before taking him down to the grassy hill in the park and before I could even get two hands on him to help steady him he had taken off and was racing around the cul-de-sac like he had been born on wheels. It was such a different experience from the girls I hardly knew what to think. He was cruising up and down curbs, racing right alongside Belle and couldn't keep from smiling and singing the Queen song, "We are the Champions".
He rode the loop at the park the next day and, not being quite as balanced as he thought and the trail being a little more narrow than he was used to, ended up running into the bushes a few times. That put a bit of a damper on his excitement for a while. I rode with him on the tagalong yesterday. We must have rode around that loop 50 times. At least my legs feel like we went 50 times. After that I told him that he had to do it by himself 3 times before I'd take him on the tagalong again. He tried it later that afternoon and when he was done he came into the house and said, "mom! You taught me how to ride around the loop! I didn't even run into any of the bushes!" So now I can officially say, that my little boy is a two-wheelin' demon. So ya'll better watch out!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

KC 6 Months...and counting

This baby boy is getting so big--so fast! No Fair! Slow down! Take your time! Already, to celebrate his 6 months of life he has begun to sit up all by himself, hold a bottle all by himself, roll over front to back and back to front sometimes. He has 2 baby teeth on the bottom which he has had since about 4 months--way earlier than the other kids. He still smiles easily and loves to be tickled and nuzzled. He doesn't always sleep the night but usually he only wakes up once during the night. I guess it's about time to take steps to "help" him sleep the night but I'm not looking forward to that.
He has started eating solids and isn't quite sure whether he likes them or not. I typically ease pretty slowly into the food thing. He has been healthy and happy up until this Feb. when he got a real doozy of a cough/cold/bronchitis type thing. He seemed to respond to abx well and got a lot better but is now relapsing into a similar thing. Sad. He tends to get those nasty coughing spasms like I do. I can't seem to find just the right remedy and so we both suffer for what seems like forever. It is never quite fair when both mom and baby get sick at the same time. One or the other is manageable but when we are both sick, life seems somewhat miserable. Then again, when you look at such a cute little face with such kissable, adorable cheeks and such wide, all-knowing eyes and such a cute, button nose, you tend to forget all about anything except extra-sloppy smooches and pudgey, little fingers grasping yours.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

"Songs" of the heart

Yahoo! It's Wordful Wednesday again! Click on the link to see all of the other posts about favorite love songs.

If I told you that "our song" happened to be "You aint nothin' but a Houndog" would you believe me? ---------lol------------jk-------------
I have three specific songs that have become special to us. When Big daddy and I were first dating---actually after we had been dating for quite a while, and were just starting to get serious, he gave me a poem with the words of this song written on it. At the time, I thought that he had actually written it and was quite impressed. Come to think of it--that might even have been the first hint of "love". It was only later that I found out that he wasn't the original author. When I realized that he really did feel the words, I knew he had at least one quality of what it took to be a really great husband. Romance/Tenderness



The second song combines three of our lifetime favorites: Our love for all things Italian, our favorite romantic comedy movie, and of course Dean Martin. Italy is one of our favorite places to visit. You could go back over and over again and never get tired of it. The FOOD, the history, the architecture, the people, the FOOD, the art! Did I mention the FOOD! If you have never seen this movie starring Minnie Driver and David Duchovny you absolutely have to rent it. It is one of those movies that we never get tired of. It tugs all of the heart strings while allowing you to laugh in all of the right places. The whole cast is amazing and the soundtrack is one of the best ever. Which brings us to Dean Martin. What can you say about Dean Martin--smooth, smooth, smooth! Combine these three things and you have a great romantic night together.



This last song is all about FAMILY to me. Every morning we get up and read scriptures together. We always start off with a song and then a prayer and then we read. Each person in the family has a day of the week that they get to choose the song and then they say the prayer for that morning. Everyone varies their song choice from week to week except my husband. His favorite song has always been this song and it has significant personal meaning to him. It seems to help us keep life in perspective. So, every Friday this is what we sing together in the morning, followed by a couple rounds of the "Thankful game." Each one of the kids knows it by heart and it is sung with such gusto that I can't help smiling each and every time that we sing it. This particular version made me smile as well. Hope it brings a smile to your day as well.

Thursday, February 4, 2010

"Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without."

"Use it up, wear it out, make it do, or do without."
— Boyd K. Packer

I've finally decided to "retire" our stash of towels. I received most of these as wedding gifts 17 years ago. A few of them came from a really great garage sale and we have purchased an occasional odds and end. They have never matched anything we own.We have dried our bodies, dried the dog, mopped up puke, washed the cars, cleaned up mud, soaked up spilled Orange Juice, etc. etc. etc.

They have lived a good life and served their purpose well but now it is time for a change! I have always wanted a FULL set of towels. All the same color--all thick and deliciously soft without even the hint of a hole in it. I have never been able to justify the expense of doing them all at the same time and so I just kept piecemealling it. I am however, blessed with a great and inciteful sister-in-law who took pity on me at Christmastime and bought us a full set of towels---all in my favorite burgundy color. I love them. It is so nice to be able to dry off without pieces of terry cloth dangling down your back and your toes poking through the holes. I feel very luxurious being able to use a "whole" towel instead of a "holey" towel. I should have done this sooner.

...and just so that I feel like I'm living up to the counsel of Pres. Packer---I'll still use those old towels to dry the dog, mop up the puke, wash the car and soak up the spills. As long as I get to keep using my brand new, gorgeous ones to dry my body.

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Who's afraid of the big, bad "loaf"?

I have always been somewhat afraid of baking bread. It's the fear of failure that puts me in my place. For some reason the baking of homemade bread just seems to be the quintessential characteristic of a "successful" mormon mom. "What? You don't know how to bake bread? Hmm, So much for your final reward in heaven--get to the back of the line!" For 17 long years I have avoided it almost like the plague. I have assigned out the rolls to others at dinner parties. I have guilted my friends into every once in a while delivering a fresh homemade loaf. I wouldn't even put it past myself to have fulfilled a three-year calling so that at the end someone would deliver that homemade thank-you gift for a job well done.
Well, I say to you now.................No more Scaredy Cat!

The past several months I have made it a personal vendetta to banish my "wholesome fears". I do not want to break out into a cold sweat whenever the signup sheet for baking the bread or rolls for the institute is passed. No bread in the cupboards----no problem. I would love to be able to just whip up some bread for sandwiches and toast the next day. Not only that, I am hoping my children will be able to make it into heaven too so I guess I need to set the good example for them.

Feast your eyes on these babies!


How cool is that? I even feel confident enough to occasionally included the girls in my adventures with bread.


Go ahead tell me--------You go girl!

maybe next year I'll tackle something like world peace.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Three Keys to Happy Marriages

It's Wordful Wednesday and I'm excited to participate this week. You can click HERE to check out other Really great posts all centered on the three most important things to your marriage.

I came across this quote not so long ago that spoke volumes to me. Val R. Christensen said, “Close observation leads me to believe that the growth of individuals after marriage is largely dependent upon the positive and negative attitude of their partner. Indeed, what you think of your wife or husband can determine to a great degree what she or he becomes. Your partner can become a slave and a grouch, or a productive and charming person. You both progress according to the way you treat each other.” I have tested this theory within my own marriage and I hold it to be a true principle. It only works however, when you are looking for and emphasizing the sincerely wonderful things that you love about your spouse---not when you are trying to CHANGE them, not when you are trying to get them to do something different. The world tells us that your attitude should be, “I will love you once you have changed into what I want you to be”. God’s way says, “I love you for who you are now and for what I know you can become.” What a difference.
I find that for me there are three key factors that help me to foster a successful, happy marriage. The first key is TRUST. I could not be happy in a marriage without fully trusting my husband. I trust that he will keep his sacred covenants to me. I trust that he will provide for our family. I trust that he will honor his priesthood covenants to Heavenly Father. I also trust him to never hurt me deliberately. It goes without saying then that I too, must be trustworthy. I must hold the trust that he places in me as most sacred and not to be squandered. Christie H. Frandsen said, “Trust is as central to a happy marriage as faith is to a testimony. If trust is strong and secure, the marriage can grow and flourish despite difficulties and crises. But if trust is weak or erratic, then the marriage will crumble under the pressures of daily life.”

The second principle that is of key importance for me is SELFISHNESS/SelfLESSness. I have never known a marriage to last, or to be happy, when selfishness is one of the main ingredients. I remember that when my husband and I were first married we were living in Little Rock, AR and it was pretty hot and humid during the summer. My husband had grown up sleeping with a fan blowing on him. I did not like the feel of a fan blowing on me and I was very stubborn about it. I cannot tell you how many fights we got into simply because I only cared about myself. I only cared that I was comfortable. If only I could have thought for one second how he felt and sacrificed my own slight discomfort, I could have saved our marriage literally hours and hours of anguish. Gordon B. Hinkley stated once, “Selfishness so often is the basis of money problems, which are a very serious and real factor affecting the stability of family life. Selfishness is at the root of adultery, the breaking of solemn and sacred covenants to satisfy selfish lust. Selfishness is the antithesis of love. It is a cankering expression of greed. It destroys self-discipline. It obliterates loyalty. It tears up sacred covenants. It afflicts both men and women” I admit, I have grown much in respect to this, mostly by the example of my good husband. As I have learned to hold my tongue, control my temper and look at situations from my husbands perspective I know that a lot of the pitfalls listed by Gordon B. Hinkley have been avoided. Many arguments and hard feelings have been avoided and avenues have been opened up for real “heart-to-heart” moments to occur.

The third key to a happy marriage for me has been keeping an ETERNAL PERSPECTIVE. Fostering an eternal perspective helps me to prioritize all of the demands on my time, money, talents and energy. I know that something that is going to be important after this life should take precedence over something that is not going to be relevant later on. It also helps keep me grounded as to the things that REALLY ARE important. My mom gave me a little book many years ago that I have always loved called, “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff, and it’s all Small Stuff.” In effect, it says, don’t worry about the little things that don’t really matter. Richard Carlson writes, “Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that big a deal. We focus on problems and concerns and blow them way out of proportion.” I have tried to incorporate that philosophy into my relationships at home. I’ve still got a long way to go in that regard but I know that the better I get at it, the happier I, and my marriage will be.

I love being married. My husband is absolutely my very best friend. I can honestly say that I love him WAY more today than I did 17 years ago. I hold fast to the promise by Spencer W. Kimball that, “marriage can be more an exultant ecstasy than the human mind can conceive.”